It's the motion of the ocean... (Mature theme)

[Nobody]

...yeah...but it's pretty hard getting to England in a paddle boat, my dear.

Seriously...I have a new girlfriend. I know it's all about being there for each other and yadda, yadda, yadda. But I can't believe that sex without foreplay only takes like...2-5 minutes. I know it shouldn't bother me (I mean stamina)...but still...I find myself questioning howcome I could go on for 30 minutes with the last person I was with and now it's like watching a bottle rocket go off: Light - wait a few seconds- BAM! - applaud - move on...

I don't want tips or tricks...just some thoughts on the subject and maybe a reason why I lack the ability of making sex into one full LP album and not an EP. (And a reason why I know it's not about "making love" for hours, but more about caring for one another, but still feel bad for not making it last longer.)

[Funkadelichika]

Hmm hard er... difficult topic. I'm not a guy so I don't think I could offer you tips or tricks anyways:P. But I don't think length as in time span should really be a huge focus. I mean if you guys are having an extremly intimate time whether it's 2mins or 30mins. I can't see it being a problem unless one or both partners see it as one. (just to let you know I think I was blushing through that whole damn response) :S

[Nobody]

Well, No need to blush...it's a natural subject, in my opinion. And well...it should be no taboo.

Thank you for your thoughts on the subject.

[Funkadelichika]

It's not that I neccesarily see it as taboo. I understand that many people do see talking about it as that I don't think I do. I just...don't normally talk about it. Your welcome! :D

[sunday]

There are lots of helpful books which I think would be of great assistance in this case. Kundalini, self help books, or sex experts will definitely know some great tricks to extend the bliss.

[Wizardwind]

Your a marathon runner or a 100 meter sprinter.
You see the act as performing or as a home made recipe to build on,adding or subtracting ingredients.There are no hard or fast rules.
The words..'Making Love' make me cringe slightly.
In any relationship the act of passion,caress, full on humpy bumpy..LOL ! Sorry
should be one of spontaneity ,not book marked .
Children , workload and all the little interruptions are only a distraction,its up to your cunning and guile to make time.

Everyone is different,physically.mentally.If 2-5 mins is the norm,just repeat it several times,with breaks(tea or other :hug:)
Just play and have fun!...

[shuyun]

how long ago was the last person?

hmm i can see where you're coming from and it may be psychological. or is she that good :) . I know it's quality not quantity but the quantity co relates some what with the quality.

maybe you should go slow on the foreplay and build up in intensity. i guess you already know that. if it's a technical thing you should find a way to plateau to be able to stay there indefinitely.

[qipol]

Its really difficult topic not for understanding but to explain. Its really bold words are explained here, I appreciate that. Its not that no one noes that it is in the subconscious. You cannot teach anyone there topic, just sharing ones experience is somehow works but there is every possibility that people will end up in different conclusion. So I rather decide not to share my views openly until I know the person personally. But I must say its OK with sharing experiences.

[colmint]

Things to consider
Is this a new relationship i e have the short sessions only been a few if so you may well last longer as the relationship goes on
Does your partner feel like you or is the lady happy with the intensity rather than the duration does she feel satisfied after the conclusion
Do you take any medication or recreational substances these can effect

enjoy > I wish I could still get it up

colmint

[GBG]

Hey Nobody...think there is only one answer to this. Your girlfriend is so gorgeous and turns you on to the extent that......well that you just cannot do otherwise. I actually think it is a big compliment for the lady in question..whether she thinks so or not ;O)